I hate when people don’t have facebooks. how am I supposed to stalk the cutie that works next door to me & comes in ordering the same thing twice a week. I love youpleasekiss me
"There are only so many times that you can utter ‘It does not hurt’ before it begins to hurt even more than the hurt. You become enlightened of the feeling of feeling hurt, which is worse, I am certain, than the existent hurt."
Jonathan Safran Foer
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"Softness is not weakness.
It takes courage to stay delicate
in a world this cruel."
Beau Taplin || Shed your sharp edges.
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"Black people. Please love each other. Please stop judging each other. Stop breaking each other down. Start investing. Let’s invest in each others businesses. Let’s start owning our own shyt. Let’s help each other get to where we want to go. Lets direct our own films. Own our music.Let’s stop waiting to be given our 40 acres when we have the power to buy 10,000. Let’s tell each other how beautiful we are. Embrace our many shades. Love our hair.
We are beautiful."
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"Borderlines have problems with object constancy in people — they read each action of people in their lives as if there were no prior context; they don’t have a sense of continuity and consistency about people and things in their lives. They have a hard time experiencing an absent loved one as a loving presence in their minds. They also have difficulty seeing all of the actions taken by a person over a period of time as part of an integrated whole, and tend instead to analyze individual actions in an attempt to divine their individual meanings. People are defined by how they lasted interacted with the borderline.
Object Constancy - They may have problems with object constancy. When a person leaves (even temporarily), they may have a problem recreating or remembering feelings of love that were present between themselves and the other. Often, BPD patients want to keep something belonging to the loved one around during separations"
Beyond the Borderline
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Most adult children of toxic parents grow up feeling tremendous confusion about what love means and how it’s supposed to feel. Their parents did extremely unloving things to them in the name of love. They came to understand love as something chaotic, dramatic, confusing, and often painful—something they had to give up their own dreams and desires for. Obviously, that’s not what love is all about.
Loving behavior doesn’t grind you down, keep you off balance, or create feelings of self-hatred. Love doesn’t hurt, it feels good. Loving behavior nourishes your emotional well-being. When someone is being loving to you, you feel accepted, cared for, valued, and respected. Genuine love creates feelings of warmth, pleasure, safety, stability, and inner peace.
Susan Forward, Toxic Parents, p381
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i loved you at your darkest
"She knew herself, how she had slowly, over years, become a cat, a wolf, a snake, anything but a girl. How she had wrung out her girlhood like death."
Catherynne M. Valente
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